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by Sam W
Tue Nov 04, 2014 8:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: For the sake of sexual knowledge
Replies: 7
Views: 2994

Re: For the sake of sexual knowledge

Again, I read up on what we already have on the site. However, no, if anal sex becomes painful or you start bleeding, then you need to stop, as it's not supposed to hurt (and pain means you did not use nearly enough lube). And I wouldn't recommend using anything to try and "clean out" befo...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 03, 2014 9:52 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sexual frustration for years. Need Advice!
Replies: 2
Views: 2193

Re: Sexual frustration for years. Need Advice!

Hi theonelost, So, I think your instinct to look at stressors outside your sex life is a sound one. Being stressed, or anxious, or even tired from what's going on in our lives can make it so that we don't feel all the way into the sexual stuff we're engaging in (or that we feel tense about it). I th...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 31, 2014 8:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Lots of Stuff!
Replies: 5
Views: 4033

Re: Lots of Stuff!

Hi tadpole, So, first off, I don't think you need to feel bad about ending things with casual guy. It's pretty normal at this stage in life for people to be working out what, exactly, they want from a relationship, and for two people who's wants overlapped at one point to find that those wants no lo...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 31, 2014 7:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Family Gathering Survival Guide
Replies: 5
Views: 3707

Family Gathering Survival Guide

So, for quite a few of us, the holiday season will soon be upon us. This generally means that we'll be expected to spend more time than usual around our families, which can be stressful for folks whose families are difficult to be around for whatever reason (questioning your life choices, making mea...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 30, 2014 7:37 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Struggling and venting.
Replies: 8
Views: 6105

Re: Struggling and venting.

Hi Silentdragon, Ah, okay, I get what you mean. In instances where "get the heck away from them" is not an option, one trick to try is mentally adding "you think" to the end of whatever they say. It helps keep it in perspective in your mind, reminding you that nothing they're say...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 30, 2014 11:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: birth control and pregnancy
Replies: 3
Views: 1921

Re: birth control and pregnancy

Again, I can't tell you why you're bleeding. That's a question best directed at your healthcare provider. Also, if he didn't ejaculate inside of you, you can consider yourself as having used withdrawl effectively as a method. You can read about how effective it is here: Withdrawal If you're interest...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 30, 2014 10:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: birth control and pregnancy
Replies: 3
Views: 1921

Re: birth control and pregnancy

Hi shyndi, So,I can't tell you what the cause of the bleeding is. However, missing the two pills likely did compromise their effectiveness. When you miss pills, it's recommended you follow the directions for what to do contained in the patient information that comes with the pill. You are still tech...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 30, 2014 8:53 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: how much do I need to tell my friend
Replies: 6
Views: 3374

Re: how much do I need to tell my friend

I think Kaizen's advice is good here. I hope it all goes well for you :)
by Sam W
Thu Oct 30, 2014 8:48 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: crush on "straight" best friend?
Replies: 2
Views: 2017

Re: crush on "straight" best friend?

Hi withthesewings, Ooof, that sounds like a tough place to be in. I think going the honest route with her is sound here, provided that you feel safe doing so. The reason I say that is that, if you don't talk to her about it it's going to be this huge "but what if" circling around in your b...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 30, 2014 8:39 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: how to talk to my daughter about masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 2072

Re: how to talk to my daughter about masturbation

Hi scholarmom, I think having some books in the house that contain the info you want her to know would be a good place to start. There's books called "It's Perfectly Normal" "It's So Amazing" and "It's not the Stork" that are by the same team of authors that cover sex, ...
by Sam W
Wed Oct 29, 2014 5:11 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Struggling and venting.
Replies: 8
Views: 6105

Re: Struggling and venting.

Hi Silentdragon, So glad to hear from you! I can't tackle all of your questions, by I have some thoughts on a number of them. To start with the "bad behavior" and making friends thing. It may help to think of it as avoiding behaviors (or people) who make you uncomfortable. And that can be ...
by Sam W
Wed Oct 29, 2014 4:46 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: STI
Replies: 5
Views: 2179

Re: STI

Okay, so, it sounds like they did a full screening and gave you an indication that you were in the clear. So, I would say that you can move on from worrying about this.
by Sam W
Wed Oct 29, 2014 4:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: STI
Replies: 5
Views: 2179

Re: STI

Hi Blondinella, The best person to ask this question to is the healthcare provider who tested you because they can tell you what STIs you were tested for (not every place does a full screening unless asked). And, some STIs have to be in you system longer than others in order to create a positive tes...
by Sam W
Wed Oct 29, 2014 9:27 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Hurting and confused and scared
Replies: 21
Views: 11659

Re: Hurting and confused and scared

Hi Kawani, I just want to say that the cycle of thoughts your describing is familiar to me. It's like some sort of jerkbrain power move and it sucks. Something I find helpful is to make the fact that I get to set my own pace explicit to myself. Like write it on a piece of paper and stick where I can...
by Sam W
Wed Oct 29, 2014 8:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex during sleep?
Replies: 8
Views: 3699

Re: Sex during sleep?

Well, my hope is that the reality of the situation (then men can be raped by women) is reflected in the law somewhere. However, since I'm not a lawyer I can't say that with certainty. But, let me check in with some of the other volunteers to see if we can find the information or resources you need.
by Sam W
Wed Oct 29, 2014 8:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex during sleep?
Replies: 8
Views: 3699

Re: Sex during sleep?

Hi Tarwin, So, it would technically be possible for someone else to have sex with you while you slept. However, if your worried about any legal responsibilities towards a child conceived by someone sexually assaulting you, that's a stickier question that none of us here are really qualified to answe...
by Sam W
Wed Oct 29, 2014 7:40 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: how much do I need to tell my friend
Replies: 6
Views: 3374

Re: how much do I need to tell my friend

Hi Avocadolime, That script sounds like it gets across what you feel you want to tell her and gives specific things she should and should not do if you zone out (which she will likely find helpful). So, if you're comfortable with it, I think it's a good script to use :). And my guess is over the pho...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 28, 2014 6:37 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: how much do I need to tell my friend
Replies: 6
Views: 3374

Re: how much do I need to tell my friend

Hi Avocadolime, First off, big round of kudos to you for being so proactive in taking care of yourself, both in terms of making the appointment even though you know it might be tricky, and for planning out some support for yourself. I think the ultimate answer is that you should tell your friend wha...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 28, 2014 6:20 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Cramps during ovulation?
Replies: 1
Views: 1866

Re: Cramps during ovulation?

Hi pinkpetals, Some people do report having a slight twinge or cramping when they ovulate. However, the only way to know if you were ovulating at the time of the cramps is if you've been tracking your cycle pretty rigorously. However, if these cramps have been going on for several days, it would be ...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 28, 2014 5:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual activity after being abused?
Replies: 8
Views: 3553

Re: Sexual activity after being abused?

You're very welcome Purpleberry :) , and I'm so glad that found the articles addressed what you were feeling. If there's anything else we're able to help you out with, feel free to let us know.
by Sam W
Tue Oct 28, 2014 9:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sore Breasts
Replies: 3
Views: 1753

Re: Sore Breasts

Yep, you got it. And talking with your doc at your next appointment sounds like a good plan :)
by Sam W
Tue Oct 28, 2014 8:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sore Breasts
Replies: 3
Views: 1753

Re: Sore Breasts

Hi celica, We can't say for certain what the source of the tenderness is. It could be that the side effects of the pill are changing again (which can happen) or, depending on where in your cycle you are, the soreness might be linked to as soon-to-arrive period. If the soreness is ongoing, it might b...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 28, 2014 8:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: When to stop taking the pills?
Replies: 7
Views: 2908

Re: When to stop taking the pills?

I would suggest either calling or emailing (if you have the capacity to do either) the person who prescribed the pills and talking to them. Or, depending on what country you're in, you may be able to find a pharmacist or doctor to talk to about the pills and what the best way to go off them is. If y...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 27, 2014 11:20 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Have a Little Faith in BC
Replies: 0
Views: 2493

Have a Little Faith in BC

This is not technically a "new" article, but since we're seeing an increase lately in users who are not trusting their birth control methods, now seemed like a good time to share it.
Have a Little Faith in BC
by Sam W
Mon Oct 27, 2014 8:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: What to do?
Replies: 3
Views: 2374

Re: What to do?

Hi aj,

If you're not happy with your current birth control, I would definitely bring it up with a healthcare provider and figure out some other options for you. You may also want to play around with birth control bingo to get some ideas:
Birth Control Bingo!