Sexual Shame and Sexual Trauma: Intimacy Issues

[BuddyBoi21]

Hi Siân!,

This totally makes sense and it's why I was very relaxed during the trip. It's why I really knew I would be okay and would be in control of myself while feeling these emotions. Even through some slightly embarrassing aspects of the encounter were there (people wondering about the relationship status).

I do believe that I will be happy, with or without my current partner, when it comes to romance. This trip did however pleasantly surprise me. I'm often deemed cute over handsome and by no means fall into traditional masculinity in plenty of ways.

So it was a bit of a confidence boost and fun to have someone flirt with me. It was even more surprising that that happened while I was in a relationship. I just never thought something like that would happen to me, y'know?

I see where you're coming from with that statement. I see it more as a "convinient crush"; while yes the person in question is pretty and charming, she like anyone else is flawed. So going to pursue this could have problems rise up just like my current one.

So yes even though I will be feeling pretty lonely if my current partner and I break up, I will probably push myself to take a breather from any serious dating (or even dating in general) until further notice.

Pretty much I'm just gonna let this play itself out and not worry too much about it.

Thank you all (Heather, Sam and Mo) for helping finslly resolve and sort through my guilt relating to my partner!

And thank you Siân for helping me look more into having a crush while being in a relationship!

Please keep up the amazing work!

[Heather]

I'll be thinking all the best thoughts for you! You know where to find us if you need (and just want!) any more help or support moving forward. <3

[Mo]

I'm so glad we've been able to be of help, best of luck to you.

[Animallover95]

Hi I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I thought I first it’s because I was very inexperienced and also I was threatened to be raped by my previous boyfriend because I refused to have sex with him. So I don’t know if because of that I have trouble getting aroused with my boyfriend but I can alone but only with my clit as I feel no pleasure at all inside. I love him and he’s amazing to me but why don’t I get turned on with him?

[Siân]

You're welcome BuddyBoi we're here whenever you need us.

Animallover - I'm sorry you're struggling. Can you make yourself a new thread to talk about this so we can support you there?