Avoiding irritation when masturbating

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Avoiding irritation when masturbating

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I've been masturbating more regularly and intensely recently, for stress relief reasons and because I've started getting horny while I'm menstruating. It's been relaxing me and helping with cramps, but I've noticed my privates feeling itchy and irritated afterwards and during the day. It's been causing me some pain and I was wondering how I can prevent it.

I'm 14 years old and don't have access to lubricant or anything. I usually masturbate by rubbing and digging my fingers into my vulva and sort of humping my hand a bit, always over my pants as I don't like touching that area directly. The pain is mostly around the urethral and vaginal openings.

Please help, all the advice I see online about this talks about using lube and I don't have any and can't buy it.
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Re: Avoiding irritation when masturbating

Unread post by Heather »

Hi there, PennyDuck. Welcome to the boards. <3

It does sound like a lack of lubrication may be your issue, so let me suggest a few things I think you probably can do:
1) I'd suggest you stop doing this outside your clothes, so you are not rubbing your genital tissue against fabric, which will absolutely cause irritation. Are you open to talking about why direct contact is an issue for you to see if we can't help you resolve that?
2) I'd really try and access some kind of lubricant, whether that's by buying something at the pharmacy (if you have any income with which to do that) or by at least using something safe that might be available at home, like coconut oil or olive oil.
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