I think I have a coprophilliac-related interest

[AcidBath]

I made a post yesterday about this but wasn't all that specific or explanatory in terms of what reaction I got and what's happened since then. I've discovered I get aroused by hearing women defecate and their vocalizations and apparent pleasure that comes with it. However, I do NOT like seeing actual feces and it doesn't arouse me. I masturbated twice to a video I stumbled across of this and I got weirded out and confused because of it, and I'm still trying to figure out why it got that reaction from me and what you would call this kind of interest. I know a little about coprophillia, but I don't fantasize about or get aroused by seeing feces or thinking about smelling, handling, or eating them, that grosses me out. I'm not looking for fetish content, I'm not looking for people to participate in acts like that, I just want to know if this reaction falls under the umbrella of an atypical sexual interest and if this is something unusual to be aroused by. I'm confused and a little uncomfortable about it, anyone have some insight?

[Heather]

Hey there. Next time, do us a favor and just add a post like this to you initial post to add more to it? It's just easier to work with an ongoing conversation when it's all in one place. Thanks!

There's actually no such thing as "typical" and "atypical" sexual interests, because human sexuality is simply, much, much too diverse and fluid for that. So, I think you're looking for an answer here that we just can't give you, because it's based on an idea about sexuality that isn't sound. Eproctophilia is the traditional term for this that you're looking for, save that the "philia" part of any of these words is not actually accurate when it's just meaning to describe that someone finds our found themselves turned on by something. In sexology, a -philia is something that someone *needs* to experience arousal or to feel satisfied by the sex they are having, it doesn't just mean someone is aroused by or curious about something. There aren't terms for everything and anything people may just be turned on by, and even when there are, they don't tend to be very helpful. Just having nomenclature for something doesn't really do a whole lot.

But what I am hearing, and thought I did yesterday, is that you feel uncomfortable with this discovery, and that is something we can talk about. It's pretty common for people, especially younger people, to feel uncomfortable when they find themselves sexually aroused in general, and all the more when they find themselves aroused by anything they feel is unusual or weird or gross, even though those words can describe a lot of sex and sexuality, honestly. Even penis-in-vagina intercourse, considered by many to be the most "normal" or provincial sexual activity is pretty darn weird when you really think about it!

It's also very common for people to be excited by things they think of as taboo or forbidden in some way, especially in the kind of overarching culture we all live in. If you feel like this isn't something you are supposed to be seeing or are supposed to be aroused by, that can tend to make it all the more arousing.

Can you say more about why you're feeling uncomfortable and what you're looking for around that? Chances are if all you felt was uncomfortable, this isn't actually a problem to be solved, as we'll all do just fine in life being momentarily uncomfortable sometimes, but it sounds like you're looking for some help when it comes to that feeling.

[AcidBath]

First and foremost, sorry for the way I posted and my wording. I didn't really know exactly where to put this, and I'm still a newbie here. I'd say I'm uncomfortable because this isn't something that's ever really come up before and discovering it was very, very jarring for me. I didn't ever get a feeling of arousal or excitement before when it comes to this kind of thing, but now I fantasize about being in a bathroom with a woman while she defecates so I can hear her sounds, the thought gets me very, very aroused. The main problem I have is I don't know what to call this, I did some poking around online and it technically falls under the umbrella of coprophilliac related interest and I'm concerned there's no one else that have this same interest and that I'm a weirdo because of it. I live in a household where talking about bodily functions and sex in general, even in educational terms, is very taboo. I think that's kind of where the attraction/arousal comes from, but I'm still confused as to if this is a fleeting interest or if this is a developing fetish and due to my upbringing it's difficult to talk about.

[Heather]

No need to be sorry!

Thanks for filling me in more. Again, terms like "fetish" are things younger people use really casually these days, but sexology terms tend to have very specific meanings, and a fetish is a similar term to those that end in -philia. Fetishes and philias are things people with them usually *need* -- not want, need -- in order to feel sexual arousal, satisfaction, or both. They aren't terms meant to just describe sexual interests, preferences or things people are aroused by. I not only don't see frameworks like -philias or fetishes (which, for the record, are also only about objects or body parts experienced as objects: again, people are using the term fetish way more loosely these days than it was meant to be used) being relevant to you here, it's also not something anyone would know right off the bat after just being exposed to something new that aroused them like this. Additionally, it sounds like you might be assuming this is something pathological, but there's no sound reason to pathologize this or you here.

So far, as far as I can tell, what you have is a new special interest and something you discovered arouses you. We just don't have terms for every single thing that can arouse someone because we don't actually need them: this isn't a disorder or disease, this is just you experiencing arousal anew from one of the zillion things that could possibly be arousing for people. If and when someone finds an interest like this sustains itself over time and they wanted to talk to another person about it, all they'd say is something like, "I'm turned on by farting sometimes."

There are billions of people in the world and absolutely nothing where at least someone, somewhere, doesn't share the same sexual interest. There's a kind of long-running quip in sexology or sexual communities anytime anyone says something like, "No one would like X," where the reply is always, "There's always someone out there who likes X," or some such. That's because those of us who do this work or who have made human sexuality a big part of our lives or knowledge base know that, like I said earlier, human sexuality is massively diverse, as is what people enjoy and like. I assure you, you are not the only person who has been turned on by this. Heck, you're not the only person who's asked about it here at Scarleteen alone in the last month.

Once more, there is no way you or I can know if this interest or excitement is temporary or will be something you have this response to over time. We just can't predict the future based on feelings you've had over a day or two. But I really would try not to worry about this or get too hung up about it, seriously. If it turns out to be something that does continue and something you want to explore with other people in some way, it will be okay, People like all sorts of things many people find surprising, because so many people just have such a narrow view of what sexuality can entail.

The last thing I want to tell you is that it's okay to be a weirdo. Lots of us are weirdos in so many different ways, and when it comes to sexuality, we're either all weirdos or we're all normal because there's no one norm with any of this: once more, human sexuality is just way, way, way too diverse and fluid for there to be a "normal" that makes everything else weird. Get what I mean?

This piece I wrote ages ago may come in handy here: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/feeling ... -who-cares