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by Sam W
Mon Apr 15, 2024 7:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Smoking fetish
Replies: 1
Views: 25

Re: Smoking fetish

Hi Mika, I want to note that a fetish refers specifically to an object that someone needs in order to feel sexual gratification. This sounds more like you find it attractive when a person smokes, so referring to that as a preference or as something you like is a bit more accurate than calling it a f...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 15, 2024 7:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I realize I’ve made a mistake
Replies: 1
Views: 241

Re: I realize I’ve made a mistake

Hi Skybushh, You know, I don't actually think there's anything inherently wrong with needing to talk with other people about problems you're having with a partner. Sometimes we need a moment or two to vent, or to talk through something we're struggling with, and friends are people we can do that wit...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 15, 2024 7:27 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Tips and Notes for masturbation?
Replies: 1
Views: 17

Re: Tips and Notes for masturbation?

Hi dayedin, I'm glad you feel comfortable enough on the boards to ask about this! So, my biggest piece of advice around all this is that there isn't really a way to masturbate "wrong;" there are just the ways that feel best to your body. Too, you're also doing the main thing we recommend w...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 15, 2024 7:03 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbating with a vulva and autism
Replies: 1
Views: 17

Re: Masturbating with a vulva and autism

Hi GenderGay, It's entirely possible autism and sensory needs are playing a role here! I know I've spoken with people before who find the feeling of their genitals unpleasant, and in some cases that's been because it's just not a good sensory experience for them in ways that seem to be tied to autis...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 15, 2024 6:55 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Query about sex and pregnancy
Replies: 3
Views: 57

Re: Query about sex and pregnancy

Hi Dhruval, I do want to point out that unless she's tracking her cycle consistently and with things like basal body temperature and cervical mucous, her knowledge of where she is in her cycle is probably pretty limited (since a lot of cycle tracker apps don't ask for all the relevant information). ...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 13, 2024 10:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?
Replies: 7
Views: 232

Re: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?

How strange! Here's what I wrote: "Got it. We can't say for certain what's behind this, but it sounds like it may just be part of how your body responds to the exertion and other physical changes that come with masturbation and arousal. As frustrating as it may be, this may be one of those inst...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 13, 2024 8:18 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Wonderings About HRT
Replies: 0
Views: 71

Wonderings About HRT

We're so excited to have nurse and comedian Kelli Dunham answering advice column questions for us! https://www.scarleteen.com/read/identit ... -about-hrt
by Sam W
Sat Apr 13, 2024 7:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: questions about masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 64

Re: questions about masturbation

Hi Human Guy,

To make sure I'm understanding you correctly, do you mean you're not noticing any ejaculate or pre-ejaculate, even if you orgasm? In other words, is it that your penis is not producing any liquid at all when you masturbate?
by Sam W
Fri Apr 12, 2024 9:14 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 303

Re: I feel like I'm going crazy

You're very welcome!
by Sam W
Fri Apr 12, 2024 6:42 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 303

Re: I feel like I'm going crazy

Hi Suomi, If I recall correctly, I think we talked about ways you could safely explore this fantasy in a past thread. I do have to say that, while Latha made a sound point about harm reduction, from a safety standpoint, we can't recommend that you actually do anything that would involve cutting the ...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 11, 2024 11:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how to seperate religion and facts?
Replies: 1
Views: 89

Re: how to seperate religion and facts?

Hi naurmi008,

I think it's really sound to have recognized that religious messaging is playing a role here! One really good starting place for addressing pregnancy fears that come from religion is this piece from our Impurity Culture series: Pregnancy and Fear
by Sam W
Thu Apr 11, 2024 10:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I make it less awkward to ask my mom about toys?
Replies: 3
Views: 202

Re: How do I make it less awkward to ask my mom about toys?

Hi Kitties774, From the sound of it, it seems like if you wanted to ask your mom for help getting a sex toy, the conversation would be awkward but survivable. She seems to be pretty supportive of you being able to learn about sex and your own body on your own terms, and like she's fairly sex positiv...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 11, 2024 10:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?
Replies: 7
Views: 232

Re: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?

Got it. We can't say for certain what's behind this, but it sounds like it may just be part of how your body responds to the exertion and other physical changes that come with masturbation and arousal. As frustrating as it may be, this may be one of those instances where when this happens, if it's t...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 11, 2024 7:58 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Experimentation with myself
Replies: 2
Views: 159

Re: Experimentation with myself

Hi Fullcloser, In addition to what Willa said, I want to point out that, at this point, basically any sex toy or similar item is going to come with instructions on how to use it safely. So when or if you do start trying out different items, you have a pretty straightforward way to make sure you're u...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 11, 2024 7:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Replies: 10
Views: 455

Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)

Okay! I'm going to start by giving you some resources on those, and then we can talk more if you have any questions or thoughts on the pieces I share. Risky Business: Learning to Consider Risk and Make Sound, Sexual Choices How to Understand, Identify, and Make Choices about Desire Too, when doing a...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 11, 2024 7:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 303

Re: I feel like I'm going crazy

Hi Suomi, I'm sorry that these fantasies are continuing to cause you such distress. I want to start by saying that your fantasies don't make you a terrible person. Our fantasies exist inside our minds and our minds alone; they can't do anyone any harm (or any good, for that matter) unless we act on ...
by Sam W
Wed Apr 10, 2024 1:19 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Replies: 10
Views: 455

Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)

Hi Kittylemon,

If it would be helpful, we can talk about how to do risk and boundary evaluation around sexual things, because that's what this would ultimately entail if you wanted to explore any of these fantasies, or elements of them, with a partner.
by Sam W
Wed Apr 10, 2024 1:16 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly
Replies: 3
Views: 257

Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

If this is how your erections have always been, and it's not causing you pain, then in all likelihood this is a quirk of your body rather than something to be concerned about. If you wanted to be certain it was or wasn't part of another condition, that would be a question for a healthcare provider. ...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
Replies: 19
Views: 4897

Re: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months

Hi PleaseHelpAsap, I'm glad you feel comfortable enough talking about these things here! I will say that at this point, I think we've offered the realistic approaches to this that are out there. I do think that taking a break, full stop, from trying to masturbate for a bit is probably the one to sta...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:44 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Loss of Sensitivity(?)
Replies: 3
Views: 192

Re: Loss of Sensitivity(?)

Hi CasWasHere, Unless you've recently started a new medication that could have sexual side effects, I suspect this isn't a underlying medical issue and is more some combination of maybe being in a rut with masturbation and/or being in a headspace that makes it less pleasurable overall. When you've t...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:40 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?
Replies: 7
Views: 232

Re: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?

Hi Grayyyson,

Do you notice this same tightness in your chest or light headedness at other times?
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to obtain penetration
Replies: 9
Views: 497

Re: Unable to obtain penetration

Hi archanana, While I'm glad you've been having a good conversation with Latha, I do want to note that help with conception is not something we can help you with on our direct services. So if you're looking for support on this, you'll want to try a gynecologist, midwife, doula, other fertility/pregn...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:32 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly
Replies: 3
Views: 257

Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

Hi bob.duncan, It's more common for a penis to have some degree of curve (called congenital curvature ) rather than not, so the fact that it's shaped this way isn't in and of itself cause for concern, though it does sound like yours is on the "more curved" end of the scale. That being said...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Replies: 10
Views: 455

Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)

Thanks for those details! You know, it's okay if you don't fully know how you feel about it; thinks like fantasy and desire can be kind of sticky and don't always stay in defined boxes. Too, as you're already realizing and doing, we don't have to engage with a given fantasy. And sometimes we may eng...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:17 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: This relationship left me feeling really gross. But I think it's at least partially my fault for not speaking up.
Replies: 3
Views: 270

Re: This relationship left me feeling really gross. But I think it's at least partially my fault for not speaking up.

I'm so glad my reply was helpful! If you end up needing more support down the line, about this or other topics, we're happy to talk with you about them.