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by Sam W
Mon May 27, 2024 2:28 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Concern with anatomy
Replies: 8
Views: 700

Re: Concern with anatomy

Hi Jax-in-the-box, I just wanted to follow up and add a few things. One is that, if you're able to be physically near your friend, we'd be okay with them using your account to ask questions and get support from us, as long as we knew that's what was happening. Two, if your friend thinks his mom woul...
by Sam W
Mon May 27, 2024 7:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Oral Masturbation Question and How to Manage Transmed Beliefs?
Replies: 4
Views: 769

Re: Oral Masturbation Question and How to Manage Transmed Beliefs?

Hi Demigirl09, I think you're right that, sadly, even being a member of the queer or trans community doesn't automatically mean that someone will be interested in or go to the effort of learning about the experiences of other groups within that community. Really, at a certain point all we can do is ...
by Sam W
Mon May 27, 2024 6:37 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Dry humping
Replies: 1
Views: 27

Re: Dry humping

Hi Jaylen23, As long as there is at least one layer of clothing present, then there isn't a pregnancy risk. Too, when we're talking about pregnancy risks, not every situation is different, because what can, or cannot, cause pregnancy doesn't change, and whether or not there's a pregnancy risk depend...
by Sam W
Fri May 24, 2024 12:50 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: i haven’t gotten my period, like, ever
Replies: 1
Views: 154

Re: i haven’t gotten my period, like, ever

Hi lb07, You're right that the fact that you haven't had one by now is a bit odd, although it's not completely unheard of for menarche to come this late in someone's teens. I can't say for certain why it hasn't come yet, but it may be worth bringing up with a healthcare provider just to check to see...
by Sam W
Fri May 24, 2024 9:37 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Am I Bi?
Replies: 1
Views: 97

Re: Am I Bi?

Hi dontaskneverask, It's pretty common for people who experience attraction to more than one gender to not experience that attraction the exact same way for each gender. That can be for a lot of reasons, including the one you suggested, which is that if we're relatively new to dating overall or have...
by Sam W
Fri May 24, 2024 7:46 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Possible sti/std both virgin
Replies: 3
Views: 147

Re: Possible sti/std both virgin

Hi Yohanz, You can find the answer to that in the piece Kier linked you. Too, I think this piece will provide important, additional information: Can people with no sexual experience have an STI? I do think that, going forward, it would be sound for you and your girlfriend to read up on and talk abou...
by Sam W
Fri May 24, 2024 7:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Oral Masturbation Question and How to Manage Transmed Beliefs?
Replies: 4
Views: 769

Re: Oral Masturbation Question and How to Manage Transmed Beliefs?

Hi Demigirl, In addition to what Latha said, I want to add a few other points that might help. One is that it's not inherently nonbinaryphobic to point out that the experiences of a non-binary person and a trans woman might be different in some ways if we're talking about a specific nonbinary person...
by Sam W
Fri May 24, 2024 6:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sleep Rape
Replies: 1
Views: 110

Re: Sleep Rape

Hi Sour_Snakes, This is tricky, because while assault intense enough to leave bruises would usually be something it was unlikely to sleep through, if you take medication to help you sleep, depending on what you take there is a chance that you didn't wake up when you otherwise would have. To me, that...
by Sam W
Fri May 24, 2024 6:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I really Ace?
Replies: 3
Views: 144

Re: Am I really Ace?

You're very welcome, I'm glad my reply was helpful! It's great that you have a therapist you're working with, and I absolutely understand how something like assault can be painful or difficult to bring up in therapy, even if we have a pretty good relationship with our therapist overall. If it would ...
by Sam W
Thu May 23, 2024 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation and no pleasure in clit
Replies: 9
Views: 578

Re: Masturbation and no pleasure in clit

Hi Archer, In addition to all the really good advice Kier gave above, I want to ask if you've had a chance to read the safety plan yet. Are there steps in the "safety before you leave: getting help and support from others" section that you're already doing? If not, are there one or two tha...
by Sam W
Thu May 23, 2024 7:32 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Concern with anatomy
Replies: 8
Views: 700

Re: Concern with anatomy

Got it, I'm glad he at least has you as someone who can help him get support and information! Would he be comfortable contacting a local rape crisis center or similar resource if we could find him one? They could offer him support with some degree on anonymity, and could also help him navigate his p...
by Sam W
Thu May 23, 2024 7:26 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I really Ace?
Replies: 3
Views: 144

Re: Am I really Ace?

Hi Sunreis, So, with the caveat that there are plenty of ace folks who are also survivors of sexual assault, I will say that it does sound like the assault and its fallout are playing a big role here; it sounds like you are interested in sex and experiencing sexual desire, but that when you think ab...
by Sam W
Thu May 23, 2024 6:44 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: never thought of being bisexsual before ...
Replies: 6
Views: 290

Re: never thought of being bisexsual before ...

So, the tricky thing is, while we can certainly offer information and context to help you work out what, if any, word you want to use to describe your sexual orientation, you're ultimately the expert on it and get to decide how you describe it. I think a good starting place would be to read through ...
by Sam W
Tue May 21, 2024 7:41 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.
Replies: 11
Views: 450

Re: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.

Got it. I do think it's worth looking into the other resources she could refer you to, including other therapists, to see if some have a sliding scale or are otherwise affordable; when we're dealing with something like depression, it's common to have periods of time where it doesn't feel as severe o...
by Sam W
Tue May 21, 2024 7:31 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: never thought of being bisexsual before ...
Replies: 6
Views: 290

Re: never thought of being bisexsual before ...

So, even if we're close to someone, they still need to check with us before doing something sexual with us; even when we're dating someone, we still have to ask before doing something sexual (and if they're just sitting or laying there rather than actively, positively engaged in what's happening, we...
by Sam W
Tue May 21, 2024 7:27 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.
Replies: 11
Views: 450

Re: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.

You're welcome! Did she happen to say why any of the services she could refer you to for individual therapy were not free like she is? Or is there something specific about her that allows her not to charge for clients? Regardless, if she ends up not being able to refer you to someone free or low cos...
by Sam W
Tue May 21, 2024 6:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.
Replies: 11
Views: 450

Re: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.

Okay! So, if this is the same therapist who initially brought up the idea that you might be dealing with depression, I would say something like "you mentioned you think I might have depression, can we talk more about that, and can we focus our sessions on how I could learn to manage it?" I...
by Sam W
Tue May 21, 2024 6:38 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: never thought of being bisexsual before ...
Replies: 6
Views: 290

Re: never thought of being bisexsual before ...

Hi ellieww,

So, while we can certainly talk about how people come to understand their sexual orientation, I want to check first: was this interaction with your friend something you consented to? Or is this something she did without checking with you first?
by Sam W
Mon May 20, 2024 1:58 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling behind
Replies: 9
Views: 474

Re: feeling behind

That's a tricky one, because the only way to know if a person is a potentially a good partner for us (or a good friend, for that matter) is to interact with them and see how we get along. But it can also help to know that having those interactions where we get to know people is a skill, and like any...
by Sam W
Mon May 20, 2024 1:04 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.
Replies: 11
Views: 450

Re: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.

Hi PomPom, In a previous post, you mentioned you've been seeing a psychologist who suggested you might have a depression diagnosis. If you're still seeing that person, I think it's time to have a more in-depth talk about that diagnosis and what steps you can take to manage it. I say that because wha...
by Sam W
Mon May 20, 2024 12:42 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Concern with anatomy
Replies: 8
Views: 700

Re: Concern with anatomy

Absolutely. Are you able to tell me if that force was in the course of an assault? Or something else?
by Sam W
Mon May 20, 2024 8:47 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling behind
Replies: 9
Views: 474

Re: feeling behind

This is a really good starting place for anxiety related resources! Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources . Too, if you decide you want to look into more formal support like therapy, we can help you figure out how to start that process. If you could snap your fingers and make it happen, what thi...
by Sam W
Mon May 20, 2024 8:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual activities feel underwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 801

Re: Sexual activities feel underwhelming

If sex isn't appealing at all right now, then I agree that taking a break is a good choice to make. It also gives you the chance to explore other forms of intimacy with your partner, since there are lots of ways of having intimate interactions that have nothing to do with sex (this article goes into...
by Sam W
Mon May 20, 2024 8:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling behind
Replies: 9
Views: 474

Re: feeling behind

Got it. If this is something that happens in multiple areas of your life, then it might be worth it to find some resources and support around anxiety, including possibly talking with a therapist; when we have a pattern of overthinking lots of things to the point of paralysis, that can sometimes indi...