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by Sam W
Tue Apr 23, 2024 9:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pms
Replies: 7
Views: 239

Re: pms

I think your last sentence is spot on: a few days variation is really, really, really common for most menstrual cycles, so what you're experiencing is, in all likelihood, that fluctuation. If you haven't read it before, I really like how this article explains period timing: On the Rag: A Guide to Me...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 23, 2024 8:08 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I am a victim and a perpetrator of cocsa
Replies: 1
Views: 32

Re: I am a victim and a perpetrator of cocsa

Hi catdog_067, I want to start by saying that I'm so sorry other people in your life chose to assault you, and that I'm glad to know that you're already seeking therapy so you can get additional support around this. Here's the tricky thing: if you did in fact perpetrate assault on your sibling, that...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 23, 2024 7:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Wrinkly lump under urethra?
Replies: 3
Views: 58

Re: Wrinkly lump under urethra?

Hi Felismisc, It's hard to say for certain what this is, since we're not healthcare providers who can examine it. Given that you've had this as long as you can remember, it may just be how your genitals are shaped (for instance, maybe it's a feature of your inner labia). If you want a definitive ans...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 23, 2024 7:36 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Orgasm?
Replies: 1
Views: 25

Re: Orgasm?

Hi Imjusthere,

From what you're describing, it sounds like you might have ejaculated. If you read through this article, does this sound like what you experienced? Squirt: On Ejaculation
by Sam W
Tue Apr 23, 2024 7:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Throat Infection from Oral or Coincidence?
Replies: 2
Views: 19

Re: Throat Infection from Oral or Coincidence?

Hi seuniemonki, Given the timing you described, I think it's pretty safe to assume that you got the sore throat from kissing him and picking up his cold (you may have also simply gotten it from being close to him while he was sick). That being said, if the thought of getting an infection from oral s...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 23, 2024 6:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: bf not attracted to my vulva
Replies: 1
Views: 107

Re: bf not attracted to my vulva

Hi thechemicaleyes, There are a lot of things to touch on here, but I want to start with this one: I suggest heavily pumping the breaks on moving in with this guy, because he is showing several red flags that give me pause, and which his immaturity around your body, and vulvas in general are one par...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 8:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pms
Replies: 7
Views: 239

Re: pms

Got it, in that case I'd say this is just normal variation in discharge, rather than cause for concern.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 7:40 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: possibility of repressed trauma
Replies: 2
Views: 129

Re: possibility of repressed trauma

Hi Maroonteen, In addition to everything Latha said, it sounds like you may have possibly witnessed sexual abuse? I ask because you mention your sisters being abused as separate from the domestic violence you all survived. Too, have you and they ever spoken about what happened, or tried to support e...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 7:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hiv risks
Replies: 5
Views: 134

Re: Hiv risks

Those both sound like good next steps. Too, a good way to avoid situations like this in the future is to have these conversations with a potential partner before anything sexual happens. If you need any information on how to do that, that's something we can help with.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 7:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Want to get pregnant
Replies: 1
Views: 65

Re: Want to get pregnant

Hi ayle1257,

So, as we say in our user guidelines, one of the things we're not able to help with is conception advice. Those kinds of conversations need to be had to with an OB-GYN, midwife, fertility specialist, or other healthcare provider who can help you determine what might be going on.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 7:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 25
Views: 14413

Re: Relationship

It's totally okay to have lots of questions! What I hear you describing here sounds more like curiosity than something that's a problem. You're in the midst of realizing some things about your sexuality, and part of that often involves imagining ourselves in those different relationship scenarios an...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 7:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: About sexual noises...
Replies: 5
Views: 184

Re: About sexual noises...

Hi MistahCFS, I think you're right that the noises people make during sex are really varied! Too, sometimes whether or not someone makes noise during sex is determined by things other than just their response to what's going on; for example, someone in a dorm room might deliberately keep a lid on an...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 7:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pms
Replies: 7
Views: 239

Re: pms

Hi naurmi008,

That's likely just some normal variation in your discharge. But I do want to check, has that change in discharge been accompanied by a new, very strong smell, or any symptoms like pain during urination?
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 6:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hormones
Replies: 7
Views: 726

Re: Hormones

Got it! So, I think it might be helpful to apply the logic in that last sentence to feeling arousal. While it's not quite as universal as hunger, I'd say the vast majority of people experience it. Experiencing it isn't a sign you're doing something wrong, it's more just an indicator that you're havi...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 22, 2024 6:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion about PIV...
Replies: 11
Views: 7956

Re: Confusion about PIV...

You're very welcome, I'm glad we were able to help!
by Sam W
Sat Apr 20, 2024 10:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??
Replies: 9
Views: 351

Re: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??

Oh goodness, I'm so sorry you went through that, and I can absolutely see how that kind of trauma would make you wary of ever seeking medical care again. Have you ever received any kind of counseling or other support around what happened?
by Sam W
Sat Apr 20, 2024 9:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hiv risks
Replies: 5
Views: 134

Re: Hiv risks

Hi Luciefer, So, if the condom came all the way off in vaginal canal without either of you noticing until you pulled out, then that does introduce the chance of fluid exchange. However, I think the important thing here is that SHE didn't tell you she was HIV positive; some other person did. So your ...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 19, 2024 12:23 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: attracted to a fictional animal from a popular children's show
Replies: 3
Views: 159

Re: attracted to a fictional animal from a popular children's show

Got it. So, I think a helpful thing to remember is that, from what you're describing, you have a crush on the more human parts of this character, rather than the dog-likes ones. Which suggests the parts of it you're interested in aren't the animal ones. Too, things like our fantasies and crushes don...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 19, 2024 11:42 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: attracted to a fictional animal from a popular children's show
Replies: 3
Views: 159

Re: attracted to a fictional animal from a popular children's show

Hi Lyle Lanley, You know, I don't think having a crush on a fictional character, even one that's a talking animal, is anything to see a therapist for or feel ashamed of. Not to put too fine a point on it, but if working in sex ed for a decade AND being on the internet for much longer than that has t...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 19, 2024 7:19 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I can't orgasm if I'm not thinking about my kink
Replies: 3
Views: 286

Re: I can't orgasm if I'm not thinking about my kink

Hi Shimotsuki, It sounds like it's worth talking with him about then! And you know, lots of parts of sex are silly or awkward, especially if we were to zoom out. But in my experience, embracing the fact that sex is silly or awkward is a big step towards being able to see sex as a form of play, which...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 19, 2024 7:03 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Help to better masturbate
Replies: 1
Views: 177

Re: Help to better masturbate

Hi Mika, So, when it comes to finding ways of masturbating that feel good to you, a lot of it is just about exploration and trial and error, because bodies are so varied in what they enjoy that there's no one, set group of methods of masturbating that will feel good to everyone. That being said, if ...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 19, 2024 6:55 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??
Replies: 9
Views: 351

Re: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??

Hi anonnymous20, With your mom, if your end up needing to go to a healthcare provider and need her help arranging that, you could say that you think you might have a yeast infection or a UTI. Those can happen for lots of reasons, so you wouldn't have to disclose the masturbation part to her if that ...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 19, 2024 6:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ovulation bleeding?
Replies: 1
Views: 177

Re: Ovulation bleeding?

Hi Hedera, Since this came around the time you expected to be ovulating, and you know that ovulation bleeding is something you tend to experience, I would assume that that's exactly what it is. Ovulation bleeding, like menstrual flow, can have at least a little variation to it without it being a sig...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 16, 2024 8:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: questions about sperm
Replies: 8
Views: 884

Re: questions about sperm

It may help to think of it this way: in order for a pregnancy to happen, a lot of different, biological things have to happen all at once. An ovum has to be available, sperm have to not only make it into the body but then make it to the ovum and join up with it, etc. And for each of those things, th...