During sex, I feel like my libido totally cuts out. Like, I'll be having so much enjoyment making out, touching, doing the things leading up to it, but sometimes during oral/penetrative sex, I am no longer horny. I used to push past these feelings, try to work through it, and get horny again because I wanted to still feel present and having fun, but that hasn't been very successful. Worst case, I start to dissociate, and when the sex is over, sometimes I even cry.
I spoke to a therapist who told me that I should try to stop when I feel like I'm not horny or wanting to have sex anymore, and I totally agree that feels like the right thing to do. The problem is, I want to be horny the whole time! I want to get to a place where I can continue having sex and enjoy it. I still haven't experienced someone else giving me an orgasm because I usually get in my head or get bored or lose my libido (etc) before that can even happen. Super frustrating... like disconnection/incongruence between my body and my head/heart.
Any ideas? I also might have ADHD... I've gotten a few opinions from clinicians who say yes, others who say no. I've started Vyvanse and only had sex once while on it. It was not enjoyable because Vyvanse makes my mouth and lower regions very very dry, so buying lube is on the to-do list. Interested to see if with the right lube and Vyvanse, my dopamine will stay regulated/sustained, and this libido problem will be improved. Still, I would love to hear your thoughts!
Thank you
