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by Willa
Thu May 16, 2024 1:16 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: weird(??) discharge
Replies: 1
Views: 226

Re: weird(??) discharge

Hi axolotlperson, Discharge can change for a variety of reasons. For example around ovulation the discharge can become more thin and clear, while later in your cycle it is normal for the discharge to thicken or change in color to more white or yellow. One source I can give you to give some more cont...
by Willa
Sun May 12, 2024 11:49 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex after use of menstrual cup
Replies: 1
Views: 114

Re: Sex after use of menstrual cup

Hi MariaSjohn, The idea that inserting something into the vagina will change its tightness or make it loose is a myth. The vagina is made up of many muscles that are made to expand and contract again. Using a menstrual cup would not have any effect on the "tightness" of your vagina. Anothe...
by Willa
Sun May 12, 2024 11:41 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I'm new to masturbation but it's still like weird idk
Replies: 1
Views: 155

Re: I'm new to masturbation but it's still like weird idk

Hi Urlocalclown, The most important thing about masturbation is doing what feels good for you personally. It is a normal part of life and a great way to explore your sexuality in a safe and personal way. When you say that touching yourself grosses you out, is it that it physically is not pleasurable...
by Willa
Sun May 12, 2024 9:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: A normal or abusive friendship
Replies: 5
Views: 245

Re: A normal or abusive friendship

Hi Mika.m, This situation is not an abusive friendship, but depending on the way you communicate it, your friend may still feel negatively or objectified. One question to start is how do you want your relationship with this person to change? Would you like to interact sexually with her or is there a...
by Willa
Sun May 12, 2024 9:30 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Replies: 21
Views: 947

Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc

Hi Trixieandtoast, It is clear you have put a lot of thought into drafting these texts, which I commend you for. Before I discuss the draft I wanted to quickly touch on your point of sex being "way less of a deal" to him rather than to you. No matter where we are in our journey with sex an...
by Willa
Fri May 10, 2024 2:20 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Replies: 21
Views: 947

Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc

Hi Trixieandtoast, I am glad the responses by KierC and CaitlinEve have been helpful for you during this process. Touching on planning your conversation, texting is definitely an option you can try and see if that is a comfortable option for you. If you feel like talking in person is too overwhelmin...
by Willa
Thu May 02, 2024 8:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just broken up, help!
Replies: 7
Views: 924

Re: Just broken up, help!

Hi Liore, I'm glad the resource provided was so helpful to you and allowed you to do some self reflection. Break ups are very disrupting and can raise a lot of negative feelings and self doubt, but through caring for yourself healing is possible. When you see him in a few days will it be a social en...
by Willa
Tue Apr 30, 2024 7:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: hate myself for being attracted to men
Replies: 4
Views: 3754

Re: hate myself for being attracted to men

Hi Lyle Lanley, I want to start by saying I understand your feelings and I do not want to invalidate them at all. It is normal to feel strong emotions about gendered violence, gendered abuse, and the way patriarchy hurts people especially when we have experienced it ourselves. However when it starts...
by Willa
Tue Apr 30, 2024 6:39 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: guy im my class
Replies: 5
Views: 1804

Re: guy im my class

Hi Ms. Candy! Do you have any mutual friends? Mutual friends can be a great way to organize something in a group so you can get to know each other. Maybe the male friend you spoke about in your first post? Like Sam said something casual and low stakes is always good for a first hang, like getting so...
by Willa
Tue Apr 30, 2024 6:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sex questions
Replies: 1
Views: 1245

Re: Sex questions

Hi Amazingstar344, welcome to the boards! To start, it is totally normal to experience varied amounts of arousal after something like sexual trauma. There is nothing wrong with you, it is just your body processing how to feel safe again after the violation of consent and safety. I am very sorry this...
by Willa
Fri Apr 26, 2024 8:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dating, being taken advantage of and saying no
Replies: 3
Views: 4989

Re: Dating, being taken advantage of and saying no

Hi Whispermae, I am so sorry you have been dealing with this. It is so difficult when we feel like we don't know how or are unable to set these boundaries, but you deserve to have touch and interaction that is pleasurable, safe, and consensual. We are here to discuss ways to keep you safe in future ...
by Willa
Wed Apr 24, 2024 7:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Loss of Sensitivity(?)
Replies: 6
Views: 5025

Re: Loss of Sensitivity(?)

Hi CaswasHere, Many things can effect libido and sexual response, one being our mental health. Changes such as increased feelings of anxiety or depression can affect other things such as our sleep and eating patterns, all of which can have effects on our bodies. When these changes happen it can be v...
by Willa
Wed Apr 24, 2024 7:26 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Condom Broke
Replies: 3
Views: 3940

Re: Condom Broke

Hi Brendie, So if there was a condom failure but no ejaculation, the risk for pregnancy is low but not zero. Is this person you had sex with on any type of birth control? If she is not it is up to her what her next steps are, but if she wants chance of pregnancy as low as possible emergency contrace...
by Willa
Wed Apr 24, 2024 7:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do i tell her my feelings without ruining the friendship
Replies: 2
Views: 3442

Re: How do i tell her my feelings without ruining the friendship

Hi -Carson-, Dealing with crushes and feelings can be stressful, but it sounds like you have put a lot of thought into this situation. One intimidating thing about discussing feelings for another person is we never know how another person feels for us unless we openly communicate it to them. One thi...
by Willa
Wed Apr 24, 2024 6:44 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Should I see the doctor?
Replies: 3
Views: 3607

Re: Should I see the doctor?

Hi CashWasHere, I am so sorry you are experiencing this! Period cramps are the worst. If you are experiencing an increased level on pain during your period very suddenly, I would advise you seek medical advice. As well if you period cramps are not responding to your usual dose of pain medication and...
by Willa
Wed Apr 24, 2024 6:31 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Using Your Fingers
Replies: 1
Views: 2766

Re: Using Your Fingers

Hi Himmingbirdd, For anal masturbation a couple things to keep in mind are first making sure your hands are clean and your fingernails are cut down short, this is for safety but also so that the insertion is comfortable as possible. Another factor that can be very useful is introducing lubricant. Lu...
by Willa
Wed Apr 24, 2024 6:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: About sexual noises...
Replies: 14
Views: 4167

Re: About sexual noises...

Dear MistahCFS, You are correct, as long as both parties are having pleasurable and consensual sex it does not matter how they choose to verbally express their pleasure. These expressions will sound different for everyone and there is no one right or wrong way to express pleasure or enjoy these expr...
by Willa
Wed Apr 17, 2024 8:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Periods
Replies: 6
Views: 3649

Re: Periods

Hi Chocolate Moose,

Those commercials are often for the different amounts of flow during a persons period, which can be heavier or lighter. When someone has a higher flow, that means more blood and sometimes they prefer a larger or more absorptive tampon. Let us know if you have any other questions.
by Willa
Wed Apr 17, 2024 6:53 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Possible pregnancy?
Replies: 5
Views: 7317

Re: Possible pregnancy?

Hi Trvllver, It seems as though this has been very stressful for you. Would you say you experience genera anxiety or is this something you feel especially anxious or worried about often? One source I can recommend to start with is https://www.scarleteen.com/about/pregnancy-scare-resources. There are...
by Willa
Wed Apr 17, 2024 6:31 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I can't orgasm if I'm not thinking about my kink
Replies: 3
Views: 3087

Re: I can't orgasm if I'm not thinking about my kink

Hi Shimotsuki, I am glad you found something so pleasurable to explore in your sexuality, as well as a partner that is open and respectful while exploring this with you. I just want to reiterate that just because something is out of the "normal" during sex, doesn't make the sex or the plea...
by Willa
Thu Apr 11, 2024 7:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Small penis
Replies: 1
Views: 1437

Re: Small penis

Hi Felipe, It seems like the thread before on here did not help ease your worries about penis size? I will reiterate to you that penis size is something that hinges on the myth of the type of macho-masculine man every person who is attracted to men is desired to. This is a myth because masculinity, ...
by Willa
Thu Apr 11, 2024 7:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to obtain penetration
Replies: 10
Views: 2979

Re: Unable to obtain penetration

Hi Archanana, Thank you for that context. I can add a couple sources here that you can take a look at and see if anything there resonates? One that I think would be helpful to you is https://www.scarleteen.com/read/sex-sexuality/sexual-response-orgasm-users-guide. It goes through the basics of how d...
by Willa
Thu Apr 11, 2024 6:57 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Experimentation with myself
Replies: 2
Views: 1704

Re: Experimentation with myself

Hi Fullcloser, Good for you for taking the time to reflect on ways you can safely express your sexuality. When thinking about things you want to try experimenting with, safety is the first priority. Anything to do with toys or things interacting with your body or genitals you want to make sure you a...
by Willa
Thu Apr 11, 2024 6:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Hard to orgasm; need advice!!!
Replies: 1
Views: 2135

Re: Hard to orgasm; need advice!!!

Hi kirikirikiri, Firstly one frustrating thing about sexual response and orgasm is the more stress and pressure we put on ourselves to reach orgasm by ourselves or with a partner, the more difficult it is to stay relaxed enough to reach orgasm. This source can talk a little bit more about the detail...
by Willa
Wed Apr 10, 2024 7:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to obtain penetration
Replies: 10
Views: 2979

Re: Unable to obtain penetration

Hi Archanana, Intercourse involving insertion is something that is usually much more pleasurable and physically comfortable when both parties are comfortable, relaxed, and aroused. Is masturbation or arousal something you have ever experienced or are interested in experiencing? We can discuss this f...