Hi Dunnout, Your best bet in this instance may be to try some ways to safely D.I.Y a vibrator. You can read about how to do that here: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/sex-sexuality/diy-sex-toys-self-love-edition Too, I do want to say that using a vibrator or sex toy doesn't automatically make mastur...

I hope it goes well and that all this gets resolved!

If the apartment isn't officially run by the university in some capacity, then there might indeed be fewer resources in place to resolve this. That being said, I would recommend Lexi and the others do a few things in addition to talking with the landlord or whoever else is in charge of the place the...

That's a completely reasonable way to feel, given that it's your partner and friend group that this is unfolding in. Can you talk to your girlfriend or your two friends to see if there's any kind of concrete help you could offer them?

You're welcome, I'm glad we were able to help!

Hi Foreverl0st, If you can safely do so, I think it's worth coming out to your online friend, just so you can have at least one person in your social circles who you know sees you as you are and supports you in it. Too, by engaging with us here on the boards, and with other users, you're also findin...

Hi Foreverl0st, So, a thing to know about terms that arise from the area of psychology or therapy is that they're often describing a behavior that has become enough of a problem that it's causing the person distress and/or disruption. For something like daydreaming, we're talking about people daydre...

Hi Mediapd , No, there is no risk of pregnancy from this, even if she was possibly ovulating at the time. You can read more about why that is here: Let's Dial Down Some (Maybe) Ovulation Freakouts Too, since it sounds like this pregnancy scare is persisting for you, I would go through this piece and...

I think that is an excellent next step on their part. If nothing else, it should give them a sense of what their options are when it comes to finding a new rooming arrangement. If it helps to know, unless a college is brand new, odds are good that the people in charge of student housing have had to ...

Hi jasonrossi, In addition to everything Anya said, I want to emphasize that it would be best if you could get out of the house as soon as possible, even if that's to a temporary solution while you make longer term plans. Right now, you're in a place where your parent has already tried to severely h...

Hi fresariver,

I'm so glad the conversation went well, and the Kier and Hannah were able to help you out!

Hi MountainMix, It does sound like this situation has shifted to be more about there being an ongoing issue with one roommate than about your girlfriend not liking your friends as a category. If she and your other friend are feeling unsafe as a result if what happened with Haris, do they have the op...

Hi Foreverl0st, I do want to check, since it sounds like you're pretty isolated and your parents are keeping a close eye on you: Do you think there's a chance they monitoring your internet usage at all, or might do things like check your phone or browser history without warning? Your safety is alway...

Hi Foreverl0st, I'd say those messages from your parents may be playing a role here. Even if you don't believe them, when that kind of messaging gets drilled into us from a young age, it can kind of linger under the surface, even when we've decided that we think it's nonsense. Then it pops up when w...

Hi StellaOs , I'm so glad that the procedure went well and that you're recovering okay! With the discomfort attached to the fear of another pregnancy, would you like to talk about your options for a birth control method that will be reliable enough for you to feel okay? Or to talk about how to hold ...

Hi sparklingstar, I agree that taking it slow and only trying to insert things when you feel really aroused is a good plan! Too, if external stimulation feels best to you--which is a pretty common experience, given how nerve dense the clitoris is compared to the vaginal canal--I agree that sticking ...

Hi WeeWee, So, that question isn't one with a specific set of answers, for a few different reasons. The first is that, if this is specifically about interactions with your girlfriend, she's the one who can tell you what having a partner act "dominant" means to her. And in the case of every...

Hi Merv, I'm glad to hear you have a plan for trying to get some mental healthcare! Using your university resources is a smart move. I think continuing to seek out media where you see your body type reflected back at you as desirable or awesome or even just normal and okay is a good idea as well. It...

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Hi Mika,

I would say lube is a necessity for anal stimulation of any kind, since it makes inserting objects easier as well as prevents pain and tearing.

In this new piece, Emily Wilson talks about her experience of getting a copper IUD: My Little Copper Miracle (and what I had to go through for it to be mine)

Hi Terence, Have you recently had just a general check-up with a healthcare provider? It may be different Australia, but here in the states it's common for students, especially students who are involved in athletics in some way, to have one once a year or so. That way, there'd be an obvious reason y...

This is all really helpful, and I do want to say that a lot of what you're expressing is things I've seen in conversations with other trans and non-binary folks I've spoken doing this work. I think a big part of that is that, on a societal level, we tend to tell young people they don't know what the...

It's absolutely okay to feel like you're rambling here; there are a lot of big emotions at play, and sometimes we just have to get them all out there, even if they're not super-organized, in order to make sense of them. Have you read about the experiences of sex repulsion at all? I ask because it so...

Hi Alice37, It sounds like there are a lot of different things overlapping here, so let's see if we can untangle some of them to help you get some clarity. I hear you expressing a lot of repulsion to the idea of sex, or things (like genitals) that are generally related to sex. Does it feel like that...